Hi Doctors

I would like to know the risks of the following event.I recently had an encounter where I had my top off during the encounter but my pants were on until the very end.

No oral and no penetrative sex. I was given masturbation by the woman. She touched me penis after she touched her vagina and had placed her fingers inside her vagina.

She also gave me a massage. There was mutual touching and i definitely got her genital secretions on my hand. The hands also touched my penis.

I noticed when she had turned over during a massage - she had these red pimple like dots on her bum cheeks. My penis never came into contact with them as i was clothed but i did grind in her bum with my pants on. my hand that definitely touched these red pimple like dots on her bum on multiple occasions

-is there any risk of syphilis/herpes from my hand touching her bum cheeks if the bumps were associated with this.

-is there any risk from an STD lense on the above situation. My pants were on at all times except till she masturbated me.

- i assume kissing is STD safe - no tongue was involved?

thank you for your help

The entire encounter you described was a no risk event. You were engaged in mutual masturbation, an activity in which it is typical for partners to get each other’s genital secretion on one another. Despite exposure to another persons genital secretions, there is no risk from the practice of mutual masturbation.  That your partner had inserted her fingers into her vagina, and no doubt had her genital secretions on her hands when she masturbated you in no way changes this assessment. There is widespread agreement on this fact from the CDC and world health organization, as well as experts around the world.

You do not know that the red bumps on your partners buttocks represented an STI. In fact, it is unlikely that they were.  Most commercial sex workers do not have STIs and even if she did, you were at no risk for infection.  There is no medical or scientific reason for testing of any sort.  In answer to your specific questions:

1.  Touching the red spots on your partner’s buttocks was a no risk event, no matter what the cause.

2.  As I mentioned above, this was an entirely no risk encounter.

3.  There is no risk for acquisition of STI‘s with superficial kissing of the sort you describe. 

I hope this information is helpful to you. If any part of my responses are unclear, please don’t hesitate to use your up to to follow ups for clarification. EWH..

I have had no issues since that exposure. Is it safe to assume if nothing has arisen you rightfully predicted I can move on and don't need any further testing

Just worried about stds that can stay dormant like Syphilis or herpes which may not show any symptoms?